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Springmeadow's avatar

You gave me a lot to think about!

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Isha Yiras Hashem's avatar

Thanks, Springmeadow!

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WeDoTheodicyInThisHouse's avatar

"5 tokens for bathing immediately after a haircut. For some reason, this always has to be negotiated separately." <-- LOL!

LOVED this:

One day, Seth came up with an even deeper concern:

“If we lose tokens for doing bad stuff... then we're just paying to do bad stuff!”

Me: “Do you have any ideas?”

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Isha Yiras Hashem's avatar

It is exciting to see a comment from you, it means I did a good job. Hope you're doing well.

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Robert Arvanitis's avatar

Like all those in control of monetary policy, you will succumb to reducing debt by inflating the currency. Stability always gives way to the seductive power of over-printing.

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Isha Yiras Hashem's avatar

Thank you, Robert! I shall have to update you in a year.

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Robert Arvanitis's avatar

Look forward to it!

Time and circumstances may change; human nature remains.

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Ilana Hoffman's avatar

It seems like you're setting up a system of "shelo lishma ba lishma", meaning you start off doing it for the extrinsic reward but come to do it for the intrinsic reward. Rebbetzin Heller says that in order to be able to make that leap, we have to intend to or want to get to the level of doing it for the intrinsic reward. So maybe little reminders to your little ones that when they do these chores, they're learning to be good, responsible people, not just earning tokens. If we're not careful, the extrinsic reward will actually sap away any feeling for the intrinsic reward! (Other Torah sources refer to this as "planting" and "building"...)

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Isha Yiras Hashem's avatar

Thank you for sharing this important point! I'll keep that in mind!

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